Zoe’s Thoughts

If you or someone you love have experienced a miscarriage, then you know that it is a real, heart-wrenching loss. Miscarriages are the most common form of personal tragedy that couples go through in their early years of partnership. Miscarriages are said to occur in 1 in 5 pregnancies. Although grief can feel isolating at times, if you have had a miscarriage, you are not alone in having gone through this experience.

Taking time to grieve a pregnancy, is acknowledging the magnitude of the loss. Most people make plans for the baby long before the positive pregnancy result. The dreams folks have for their children are very real and very important. It is important to remember, the baby is deeply missed no matter how long the pregnancy was.

Counseling can provide the opportunity to grieve and share about your pregnancy and your loss. Seeking help from a grief counselor can provide the comfort of knowing that your baby has not gone from this world unnoticed or unblessed.

Coping with pregnancy and infant loss is a complicated task.  Especially for men.  If you know of a man who has experienced this type of loss, reach out to him on Father’s day.  Holidays as well as other important dates such as the baby’s predicted due date and the first year anniversary of the child’s birth and death are important times to recognize.

If you have experienced this loss, be gentle with yourself during this time.  It may be helpful to communicate your feelings.  Talk about the baby and your feelings with your partner, family and friends.  Express your grief if you can.  Strength is finding your way through the darkness of grief.  It takes immense courage to grieve.  Ultimately, you honor your child by honoring your feelings.